And for the record no, you don't have "all these options." And the ones' he is leaving you with are not pleasant.
Having to humiliate yourself and expose to his parents couldn't have been easy for you. Having to talk to his friends could not have been easy for you.
Having to bring consequences down on his head at all is going to be painful. And the more he tests you, the more you have to bring down on him to show him you mean business.
I would also call OWh if she's tempting him at all on facebook. You KNOW she doens't like that and he doens't either. That is consequence too.
Or as suggested earlier by someone. Get his two kids and drive to OWH's house and have a chat with him right in front of the kids. Let OW be there, who cares. Talk like she aint even there.
I am leery of this one cause I can't see the facebook post to gauge if she's inviting him to post or not. But to my mind she should be REMOVING him from her account if she's working on her marriage and I would tell her so.
This is all painful I know. Having to discipline a spouse who is overtly testing your tolerance for an open marriage is very hard... we've been there. This is the saddest thing about all of this is that all the choices he's leaving you with... none of them are pleasant, they are all varying degrees of things you don't want to have to do.
Do you think people want to have to cut internet access? Bug their phones and computers? Tell in laws their spouse is having an affair? Sleep alone every night?
No one wants to be publicly humiliated or have to monitor their spouse like a child, but infidelity is addictive. It's not a game that is fun in any way. This is why some of us on this forum bear down so HARD on infidelity is BECAUSE it is SO PAINFUL we advise to hit it HARD and FAST to minimize the TIME you will BE IN PAIN.
If you go softball the fight could last a LOT longer, which means a LOT more discomfort for you.
Yes, tossing a hand grenade into a garage to get rid of one mouse may at first look like overkill, but if you spend months trying to trap that mouse gracefully he could end up BREEDING MORE MICE and getting into your HOUSE...
THEN, after its TOO LATE to use a hand grenade, when your garage AND YOUR HOUSE is overrun with mice, that hand grenade idea from months back doesn't look like it was such a bad idea...
