It usually takes a while for them to get rid of those OM's. Even after the OM relationship is broke, they will be looking for them. They may also look for another. Decide from the information here if your willing to go through this cycle completely, its not easy. Plus half of her support structure may support her ways, so if its not OM it may be someone else, they may have you "out". Just throwing some stuff out there.
DB'ing is harder than it looks, but you did one of the phases very well - in that you GOT OUT, had FUN, and didn't think about it. Your going to have to keep doing this, and if you want to be in her, kinda live in parallel and have some faith that she will see the error in her ways and come home.
