I don't know about statistics but once my divorce goes through, it would have to be an extraordinary situation for me to get married again. I wonder if the people who get married 2, 3, 4, 5+ times aren't just using marriage as a magical token.
To be honest, now more than ever, I don't see marriage as anything more or less special than two adults being committed to each other. I don't need to have a judge or law to "validate" my commitment to the person I want to be with. I went through one marriage already with a clear heart, all bets in, and my husband cheated and I filed for divorce. He keeps wanting us to work on the marriage, but the marriage ended when he fooled around. It's just a legal transaction at this point that I won't be associated with him, other than co-parenting.
If I ever fall in love with someone in the future, I don't see any reason to get married. Especially now that I'm in my 40s, there's no reason to do it.
I was talking with a friend about this a while ago, and he's been dating since his divorce and he always seems to go head over heels for women, talking about marrying them after 5 or 6 dates. I keep telling him that he just needs to find someone he can enjoy being around without even thinking about getting remarried but he seems to think that marrying someone is more evidence that you are committed to someone. I totally disagree.
