Thanks OldPilot. As I participate more, I learn more about myself.

Like GF, I was the "mommy". Making sure EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING was in order for H to have a smooth life/day. He didn't have to lift a finger on ANYTHING. This was what was programmed into me to being a wife. If I took care of home and everything that fell under that roof, all he had to do was bring in the income, life would be peachy.

Fixer, I am not Cat but just wanted to chime in. From GF's posts, she still feels the need to be the nurturer and the care taker. From what I have gathered, she hasn't done enough detachment and truly taken care of herself. She is still fragile and damaged. Any sort of contact can throw her H into running again and her back to square one.

Last edited by Jasmine; 04/17/10 04:27 AM.
Me: WAW/MLC 41
H: 42
M: 16 yr T: 20
Me: EA/PA started Sept 2008
D: Anytime, just need to sign papers
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