See, this is where I'm getting into trouble. I'm thinking it through too much, and screwing up.
I waited for him to come home. My mom invited him to dinner, so we were all going together to drop off DSD. He didn't come home right after 5, wasn't home until 6:30. I saw the fb posting, thought about consequences, thought of packing his bags, imagined that he'd go stay with his friend, who would tell him to D immediately, he'd come back on Monday and file. So, that's how I get into trouble. Instead I decided to leave and go to mom's w/o H, but he pulled in just as I was about to get into the car. DSD needed her passport out of the safe and remembered last minute, so while she waited in car, I went in to get it and H was in with me. Now we're in the kitchen together, when I had intended not to be there. I stood and looked at him, and he instantly said "I know what you're thinking, you're so smart. You think we were chatting on fb." I said, no, never even thought of that. He said "you're mad that I posted." I said, yes, you promised, and he said (of course) that's not contact.
I said, I want NO contact and I want you to remove her from your profile. He said he'd think about it. I asked "what is there to think about, remove her, there is NO reason to have her on there, it's only there to tempt him. He said he wants to make it his decision not mine."
I'm just done. I left it alone, didn't want to turn it into an argument, I'm going to reapproach at the end of the weekend. I just didn't want an argument, and his saying it first took me off guard and I felt it took the power away from me. I want to approach this from a position of strength, not anger.
You guys keep saying I have all these options, but I just feel like if I give him a consequence, he'll just let it roll off his back. He just doesn't care about me or the M or anything enough to care. I'll give it a try, and will be pleasantly surprised if he is affected by it, but I doubt he will be.
