FM- yes, fear can be paralyzing. Luckily I know this and am going to my therapist next week to discuss it. I have this f'd up mindset that MOST PEOPLE divorce after their children are older than 9 months but I do know that is not true- some moms do not have a father willing to stick around.

I have always had trouble letting myself accept that my problems are just as bad as others because I am so aware that others have it worse. Like some people lose their husbands to war or some people have husbands that beat them or some people have a baby and live in their car. AND 3rd World country problems! So because of the comparison of problems I have discounted my own but now I am truly ready to confront this as a valid fear and issue worth addressing. I am weird- I stated that before!!!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004