All happening so fast

[ClingingToHope]

My IC said my STBXW is the type of person who always kind of muddles along just below happy. She's constantly in search of that magic something that will make her happy. At first, and for a couple of years, it was just being with me. Then it was if she'd just get promoted, then it was if we'd just get a bigger house, then it was if we'd have a baby, then another, then a dog.

Finally, we plateaued in 2006. We couldn't afford a different house. She got passed over for several promotions. We'd decided to stop having kids and our youngest started school and ADHD issues cropped up making every day stressful.

There was nothing new that could make her happy so she started trying to find out why she was unhappy. And I'm the only thing in her life she can change. She can't change jobs -- she makes too much to start over. She can't change her daughters or her mom and sisters. We're underwater on the house.

So now the divorce is the only thing that will make her happy -- the ever-lasting search goes on.

Does this sound familiar?

I asked the IC if someone like that ever gets better. She said most don't. They just move from thing to thing looking for magic that will lift them out of their depression. The ones that do get better seek treatment and a lot of times go on medication.

That made me remember that in 2008 when I thought my STBXW was working late she was actually seeing someone for depression. She stopped because the doctor wanted to hypnotize her and she didn't want that and he wanted to put her on anti-depressants. She didn't want that either because she thought it would hurt her at work, cause her to cut corners and be too lenient. All of the other supervisors at her level were on anti-depressants.