"I want him to want to be here. I want him to fight for our M and really love me."
I want you to help me understand where you are coming from.
To me and what I have read about you.. you seem a bit overbearing. You strike me as a REALLY "strong" woman. You like the control to favor you. The thing I like about you.. is in your own way.. you found DB.com. Basically in doing that whether you know it or not.. you just said to me "I screwed up and now I want to fix it."
"I know you are right, I am so anxious for a sudden and wonderful change. Or, I am so terrified of a sudden and awful change...."
This is your "Emotional" response... to the situation. "Emotional" response's are usually not good. They hurt you more than they help you. My goal is not to be right. My goal is to make you react right.
(When I am talking and "" words it means take the broad meaning.)
"He's coping with (what his Ic has helped him define) guilt (over putting me through all of this) and depression (lack of interest in much of anything)."
Why would someone express an interest in anything... when what they thought was important was gone? From the surface view of what I "see" his IC is not really helping much. Now I am trusting your intuition a bit here... but I question the benefit some.
"Thinking about what advice he would give someone in his shoes."
This concerns me some. Simply because you are "here" and he is there. I can see this going really bad.
This is what I REALLY want you to do.
I want you to sit down at the keyboard and type out what you really feel. Imagine that I am him... and I just told you that I Love You.. But.. I am not In Love With You.
Basically what I am asking you to do is to give me a reason to keep posting to you.
I know it's there.. I just want you to show it to me.
Right now.. the only reason you are posting is you want a change in your M. Maybe I can help with that.
Don't let my post count fool you. I am very picky about who I post to. Most of that has to do with a lot of people just don't like me.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
