So I'm supposed to say a prayer on this board everyday about what I"m thankful for? I do that every morning when I wake up and pray.

No, James... you are not "supposed" to come to this board everyday and say what you are thankful for. What you should be working towards is having a more positive and thankful outlook on life. Go back and read all your posts and see how you portray yourself as a victim. It's not attractive and it makes you a real downer. It is not about stating your gratitude out loud. It's all about allowing your gratitude to radiate from you even during the difficult times.

I come on the board to vent and express how I feel about my thoughts and feelings.

We all do that however we also absorb the advice and experience freely doled out. You vent and vent and vent some more and gloss over the majority of the advice that is given to you. When you do respond to reasonable and necessary questions you are defiant and simply remain staunch in your stance. Not only have you closed yourself off to gratitude, you simply seemed to have closed yourself off to anything positive and you make excuse after excuse of what you can't do. Figure out what you *can* do.

The dcotors don't really want me doing too much of nothing right now. I'm on a strict diet. I help out around the house when I can. Most of the time they want to do it themselves.

That is interesting. If your doctors don't want you doing much of anything how do they feel about you bowling and having sex? How do they feel about you going to restaurants with your strict diet? What do the dr's say about your smoking? You can't fool a professional patient, James.

i cannot have a taxi or bus take me to the surgery they will NOT DO IT. It has to be a responsible person take me. So that's out too.

It's in the paperwork i'm reading. This operation aint no joke sighs. The symptoms are really really scary.


I don't think anybody claimed your operation was a joke. Operations are a scary, scary thing. The constant sighs though really aren't helping anything.

I live with a chronic and incurable disease each day. There are days I am so fatigued I have to use every ounce of strength I have to lift my arms over my head to wash my hair. There are days I am not sure how I will find the energy to take one more step. There are days my joints hurt so bad I can't even close a button to get dressed. Each day I wonder if today will be the day my kidneys, brain, heart, lungs or liver will become so inflamed they shut down. Each day I ingest large doses of drugs that burn my stomach like fire. I get it.

There are have been long stretches where I have been home bound due to a highly compromised immune system or infection. During those unfortunate stretches I try and be productive. I taught myself Photoshop and brushed up on my French. DO SOMETHING.

Take the weekend and really read about all the stuff that has been posted to you.