Well, stopped by to change out of my work clothes and big shock, no "surprise" waiting for me here. I kinda knew all along that she was just talking big.
get used to calling her bluff and smiling at her when you do it, she'll be doing alot of that as you start to man up and take back those raisins you call balls out of her purse LOL!
Well, stopped by to change out of my work clothes and big shock, no "surprise" waiting for me here. I kinda knew all along that she was just talking big.
Damn, big dawg, I just knew something at your house was missing or tore up. Some of the guys said it could've turned out positive, like you got home and she was in lingere. You got nothing, I guess the positive is it doesn't cost you money.
I also want to second the other guys, the first time you have any form of physical violence, call the cops. She has been reverting to a bullying behavior, and to the ones who do it it is very addictive.
turned phone back on and found stream of texts. . . can you call me it's important. please? Well, I'm sorry this is how it turned out. Also, I'm sorry I have so much anger towards you.
No; all WAYWARDS are. It applies equally for both sexes, and I can almost always predict what's going to happen next.
Well, I'd love to have a heads up as to what to expect next.
I already told you:
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you're going to be sorely tested before she takes you seriously. Those tests will begin immediately (sounds like they already have), and will take various -- even opposite -- forms. Your wife will swing wildly from bile/anger/venom, to sweet/respectful/nice, which will include trying to have sex with you to "tag" you and gain her control back.
Well, I'd love to have a heads up as to what to expect next.
you will wake up in the morning by yourself.
and do yourself a favor, yell, "IT'S F*CKING GREAT TO BE ALIVE" or whatever mantra suits your direction for the day/rest of your life.
and go to lowes or home cheapos and buy a bunch of packaging boxes and box up her stuff and leave it waiting for her.
Your wifed effed up man. She's is sending pictures to some other guy. That is really really bad. THAT IS EFFED UP. What is she thinking?
not about your best interest!
If you love her you need to let her go, let her do what she wants, where she wants, whatever she wants just not around you and the kids. and disrespect you like that. she needs to go.
Well, it's done. She mesaged me and since I'm feelig good being out, I replied. She said she was sick. I asked if her friend was taking care of her and she said that she's not there. She just said she's at a friends house. So, I said that obviously she's with a guy and I'm assuming OM flew her out to him, so all of her stuff will be at her moms house when she gets home and she can explain everythig to her and deal with it. I'll be filing petition on Monday and making the moves to end this marriage asap.
so all of her stuff will be at her moms house when she gets home and she can explain everythig to her and deal with it. I'll be filing petition on Monday and making the moves to end this marriage asap.
Hang on a second... did you tell her this or is this what you are planning?
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
She was just trying to [censored] with me and I guess a few beers is what I needed to finally speak up. This is what I said to her after she did in fact prove to me that she's staying at her moms house: "Ok, I don't know why you had to lie to me, other than to [censored] with me. I'm not playing games anymore. This is retarded. Were [censored] adults and yeah, I was a spineless bitch for far too long and I let you and everyone else walk over me, but not anymore. I'm done with being a passive little bitch. I know what I want and how I deserve to be treated and this isn't it, so You can either accept that I've grown the [censored] up and never getting pushed around again or you can keep acting like this until the divorce is final. I'll see you on Sunday. "
She was just trying to f*ck with me and I guess a few beers is what I needed to finally speak up. This is what I said to her after she did in fact prove to me that she's staying at her moms house: "Ok, I don't know why you had to lie to me, other than to f*ck with me. I'm not playing games anymore. This is retarded. Were f*cking adults and yeah, I was a spineless bitch for far too long and I let you and everyone else walk over me, but not anymore. I'm done with being a passive little bitch. I know what I want and how I deserve to be treated and this isn't it, so You can either accept that I've grown the f*ck up and never getting pushed around again or you can keep acting like this until the divorce is final. I'll see you on Sunday. "
Well... it goes against the cool, calm and collected part... but that's good because you've been TOO much of that in the past. It was a good reply... but said in anger. You're going to have to get a grip on that. This is why I usually advise people on the board to stay away from the "dutch courage."
I hope you really meant what you said. The part in bold above should not have been said... next time around you will correct that by throwing in, "You know what? I'm not sure about how I feel about you at this point in time... I need some space. I want you to stay at your mother's until I decide what I want to do."
You can expect another barrage of texts and phone call attempt tomorrow... maybe even through the night tonight. Switch off your phone. Have a great day tomorrow planning your party on Sunday.... which is looking even COOLER than ever now.
Don't worry, we're still working on getting you back together.
Right now you're angry and pissed, the alcohol is talking and you've just felt the first real surge of adrenaline in your system for a long time. Stick to your guns here. Don't back down now. Take the rest of the weekend to let the rush get through your system.
EDIT: And stay the hell away from her. DO NOT get pulled into any more conversations. Just shut the hell up. No more talk. A man takes ACTION and he RESPONDS.... with class and style. He does not lose his temper. He is in CONTROL of his emotions.
Last edited by Gnosis; 04/17/1004:57 AM.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
