hey, just wanted to start a thread with some questions for those who are getting divorced for the second/ third time. It seems a little strange to me that second divorce rates are even higher than the firsts. After the first divorce did you take the time to really assess your problems and know what led to the breakdown of your marriage. Did you see the warning signs in the next marriage? Obviously a lot of people here are dealing with infidelity, but most marriages are in tough shape when om/ow enters the picture. Just looking for some insight for the next go around if I dare try it again.
Strange? Why strange?
It actually makes alot of sense.
You divorce in your first marriage, you didn't resolve any of the issues that happened in that relationship, you move on to the next relationship without taking care of those issues, you repeat the same mistakes, you're the same person throughout all of this, the only difference is that you wake up next to a different body in bed but with the same problems.
It actually makes sense, so much so that that the statistics says that divorce rates are even higher with 2nd and 3rd marriages - why? Because instead of resolving said issues, people hit that "brick wall", they aren't willing to put up with the same $hit for as long a period of time as they did in their previous relationships so they quit much sooner and then you've developed a pattern - something difficult and hard comes your way and you don't know what to do, rather than stick around and try to resolve and fix it, you quit. You quit sooner. That's the pattern and you bring that with you to the next relationship and the next one, so on and so forth.
It's logical, not strange and it's something alot of divorcee's better get prepared for, because that's reality.
It's friday night and the peeps and bud light limes are calling my name and I can't be typing these long winded posts from my phone all night long, have a good one bro!
