Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

Hello IWITW. Thanks for responding. This is what I sent back...

"Nothing could be further from the truth than the crap you just texted me. By making me responsible for everything, you make yourself responsible for nothing!
And we both know that's not the truth.
Our children are in crisis, especially because of your actions since December of 2008. I miss our kids. Im love them, and I'd like them to be with me when they are supposed to be."

I felt better after sending it. I've validated out the a$$ over the last 15 months! I went to counseling for several months last year after this crap started, and I got stronger over time. It definately helped. Her filing in October hit me hard though.

I especially like this advice from you..."state that when your kids are at your house, there is boundaries for behavior and there are consequences when they: Kick holes in walls, cuss, talking back to there father, etc."

I do have to give them some leeway because of the circumstances, but it's friggin' hard when they are so out of control, especially my son. He's become violent. He was always a soft hearted boy...now he laughs when he physically hurts others (including me)...doesn't seem to feel remorse, and NEVER apologizes for physically hurting others.