It's clear you and I don't agree on how to treat an MLC'er. To contact the WAS or not to contact them. To be self suffient or not. I agree that going dark is a protecton, but I don't see where GF has to protect herself.
At this point like the subject of this post we don't know if her H is in MLC. If he's a true blown MLC'er he needs to make this trip alone. You can't reason or tell him what to do. I think he knows what he's doing and can't help himself.
I think in order to save this M, we have to try different things. I also feel that going dark should be a "Last Resort Technique" we save for an emergency.
