How do I act?

[steady]

I'm still here. Just catching up on your sitch. I really don't have anything to add as you've gotten great advice by the others here on your thread.

I have become a WAS to my WAW. Go figure. Mike from Tennessee, who helped me tremendously, used to comment on how often he sees the LBS become a WAS. There comes a point where enough is enough. Enough being blamed solely for the mess, enough of the WAS not doing anything to take responsibility for their issues let alone work on them. Enough having no power. Enough becomes enough. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired.

You'll have your momentary lapses where you feel like your caving. You already experienced one earlier in this thread. Then your resolve came back. Just remember those lapses will pass. Come here and post, get feedback, etc...just like you are doing.

You're doing just fine. When he tests you, tell him no. Tell him you no longer have that kind of relationship with him and it makes you uncomfortable. These are boundaries. Figure out where you want them set, then be assertive about them. He is probing to see if he still has you on that thread. Oftentimes when you take that thread away, they switch their focus and have to deal with the reality of their own positions.

Keep it up.