I had a big insight today. I spent some time with my mother and EVERYTHING I say or do - literally everything is bad~ I check my messages ("Well, it didn't take you long to get on the phone" implying I'm rude), "Mom, turn right (I"m giving her directions to pick up S in a new place she's never been before) "OK HOPE! I'm doing my best!" (LIke I'm insulting her)
No wonder I take all the blame in my R. I wonder if my M could have been saved if I hadn't always defaulted to Hope is bad.