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[JacT]

Passenger, there are many who are cynical about MLC and as Saffie mentioned it is refered to as many different things.It can as Bond says be triggered by different sitchs and you could spend time and energy working out what that trigger was and never find the right answer.Only you know.

If your H has cheated several times it could be he has started his MLC, not gone through all the stages and each A is recognition of the fact he has not addressed his issues.No matter what,it is his crisis, it is his journey, his issues and only he can fix it.
You will send yourself crazy.I think the key thing here is you and you looking after yourself.Your H knows you love him and that you want to save your marriage. The difference with a MLC A is it is much more difficult to end because your H is confused and in a deep depression.
If he is deep in Replay,there is little you can do to snap him out of it.You can however look after yourself,GAL and show him that there is a safe passage home if he choses to take it.This may take time.My concern is pushing it will cause him to bounce out of one relationship into the next.
Our sitch are all different.We all read material intensively.You are being bombarded with lots of advice because we all want to help..Focus on what you can control, not what you cannot BUT look after YOU.