You going dark, light grey or deep purple did not destroy anything. What gives you the idea that if you had of done it differently that it would have ended like a fairy tale? Nothing, nado, zilch... you are just assuming that anything but what you did would have worked. Oh, I forgot, last time when you begged and pleaded she waited a little longer to file ...big deal! She still filed and has again. It is ending because she wants it to end...period. You're not a magician who just has to wave his wand and utter the right spell and it will all go away. It's sad, it's unfair and it feels like a nightmare but it is what it is. You now do the best you can to preserve good feelings and build a separated R that will be healthy for your daughter to be raised within. Romeo, I know I did all sorts of DBing sh!t and it made no difference, sometimes that's just the way it works out but I'm a damn better person for having tried, just as you are. There is no sure answer so to blame yourself for going dark is silly. We LBS's often love to whip ourselves and somehow seem to forget who called game over in the first place, it wasn't you. So STOP doing this to yourself ... pleeeeaaase! Don't make me come back here, OK!
