Yeah, I am more than willing to listen to everyone's opinion and advice to consider, but I'm getting such mixed opinions and I know that it's my responsibility to sort through them. So much of this has gone against everything that I've let myself become over the years and hasn't been easy. But, I know that my passive nature and desire to please people is what got me here and it sure as hell isn't going to get me out of this. All I can do is keep absorbing everyone's advice, keep myself upright and working on the things in my life that I know need to change so that I'm a better person and stick up for myself, and get out and enjoy myself.
Now I have an email from her saying "you're in for a treat when you go home :)" god, I don't really care what it is, but I swear to god if she's broken anything. . .
I can tell from your last few words, "if she's broken anything..." that there's a recurring pattern here, she's done this before hasn't she? If you're too scared or ashamed to admit, don't be, it happens to alot of people.
If she's broken anything, this is what you will do:
1. Take photos with your phone or digital camera
2. Ask her to leave or stay but you are calling the police
3. Tell them what she did, tell them that you guys are in he process of separating and you are waiting for her to move out
4. Get a restraining order against her and let her know she now has to keep her distance
5. Get boxes and immediately help her pack
6. Get a lawyer and get all of this documented, the more the better
7. Let us know what happened
Don't ever put up with that bull$hit, breaking stuff, damaging stuff, making messes, etc. It's abuse plain & simple, it's destructive, it's a form of bullying meant to scare you into submission and you won't ever fall for that or allow her or anyone else to do this to you.
