Mariage Row or Marriage Bliss?

[timehealsall]

you know, OTM, my H was an avid watcher of adult films. i didn't and don't really MIND them, but i felt like he was sneaky about it, which is the thing that bothered me. i wouldn't say he was addicted, but we did spend about $40 a month on on-demand films he'd order when i wasn't home, and i knew he had a stash of dvds hidden in his closet.

i just never understood why he felt like he needed to hide it from me. i'd look at the dates on the comcast bill and the second i'd go out of town, there would be 2 or 3 films in a row ordered. i never told him not to watch it and i would certainly never tell him i wanted him to hate it. i would watch it with him from time to time, but i still felt like it was something he wasn't that comfortable with.

my POV is, don't hate the film...hate what it does to your family life. if it stops you from spending time with your W or your family, that's where the problem is. it's not in the movies themselves. if you can't tear yourself from the computer or it's interfering with your sex life or your W feels like you prefer that over her...those are the things to hate.

watching porn from time to time never hurt anyone. it's when you let it take over that the issues arise. does your W feel it's taken over or is a priority in your life?

Agreed.