I am also sure that H is looking for OW to find happiness.....
But you know where that is going to lead.
Went back and I read some of your old posts. Let me just say you are on the right board and following the right advice. I do not think your H is a WAS IMHO(which I know I am not suppose to do)
I have a question! Am thinking of starting to pack up some of H's things...things from the junk drawer, his dresser etc. I am not sure what message that will send...
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Do it if it feels right to YOU CW. He is taking concrete action towards D, so he should be expecting that you're moving on with your life.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
CW, if you are moved to do so, then why not? Will leaving clutter make anything different?
And just for your amusement... my younger one has been "stealing" clothing and other items of WH's and bringing them INTO my house, trying to get him to return ONE article at a time!! That doesn't change anything either, lol!!
I did it! I packed some things! His parents photo albums, odds and ends stuff...birthday and anniversary cards...that was tough! I thought of just tossing them but figured they belong to him and he can toss them if you wants, his choice! Knowing him, he won't upack those boxes for years anyway!
Now, to go outside, in the dang wind and do some yard work!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
I did it! I packed some things! His parents photo albums, odds and ends stuff...birthday and anniversary cards...that was tough! I thought of just tossing them but figured they belong to him and he can toss them if you wants, his choice! Knowing him, he won't upack those boxes for years anyway!
isn't it annoying that we have to pack up their stuff for them? But I will when/if WH tells me he wants to D...we must prepare for our own future. And I think having them see us moving on will be shocking. But it doesn't mean that we don't love them and they know they chose the D not us. So we are moving on sadly but as strong women!! They will regret it!
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
