Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

You are unreal.

Once again you glossed over SEVERAL posts chock full of guidance and went right back to your WAW and how victimized you are.

As many of us have tried to point out to you spouses that walk away and have affairs don't just "flip" and want to make things right in a matter of weeks. You knew better though.

You are not looking for solutions. If your mother can't take you to surgery tell her "no problem" and get to work finding a solution. If you have money to buy cigarettes then you have money to call a cab or car service. You have mentioned the bus. Call a friend or other family member for a lift. Call the agency that is paying for the surgery and let them know you have transportation issues. Perhaps if you weren't so OBSESSED with your wife you wouldn't be so busy *sighing* and might be able to figure out this very basic problem.

You are correct that your WAS will not stop talking to other men as long as you continue to participate in the way she dictates. Why would she stop? She gets money from your joint account, gets to talk to other men and have you as a fall back option. Not a bad gig if you can get it, no?

Lastly... GRATITUDE my man. Embrace it.

i'm getting out. I'm not gonna do it. I'm already drawing up the legal documents so that we can do this quick and fast. I set boundaries about this and she knew how I felt. No more.

Where I live at I can't use the services I have to get to where I want to go. It's part of the reason I didn't want to come here in the first place.

I've made callss to family members no one can take me. No friends to really speak of. It's not their problem. I'll just find a way. I called my vocational rehab counselor and left a message.

nope not a bad gig for her at all. It's about to all change and stop. I am sincerely thinking about filing for divorce.

I love her but I cannot keep taking this abuse and treatment. I've enabled it. Heck I enabled it even more by the dates and ML i guess.

I dont know if I have the patience to deal with her CONTINUALLY DOING THIS. Letting sd8 and the boys suffer. Blow through our life savings and just mess up everything. I'm just completely fed up with it.

Even if I told her she's not gonna sign these forms. I know it. She wants to keep me right here. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. So i'll have to go to the court and and fight it that way I guess.

She's not calling them no more but whatever man. I can't keep being on this emotional yo yo. I deserve better. I have given her bettrer. I was not the perfect husband or father but damnit I have tried.

I'm about to text her in a little while that we can meet up and get these forms signed and we can both end it. I will not be a doormat.