Now H wants to wait 3 months to file the D papers. Last week I told him D is not what I wanted but that I love him enough to let him go and that I would sign them. So he had them rewritten how I wanted them and brought them home on Tues. I didn't see them that day as I had to leave. However, last night he brought them out to show me. Again I said the usual about this being his D not mine, and this is not what I want, etc. I did alot of validating and also letting him know I didn't feel the same way he did. Finally he said, "why don't you sign them and then I won't file them for at least 3 months". I told him that was up to him, and that I was no longer asking for time and that he needed to do what was best for him.
The last 3 convo's I've had with my H have been so different from others in the past. I have decided to be nice, but not a doormat. Listen more and talk less and hold my emotions down with showing some emotions as needed. Validate and repeating what he just said with also telling him I don't feel the same way as him, etc. I'm not trying to read any hope into it. However, I have noticed he has been looking at me a lot more and differently without the anger in his eyes. And has started saying stuff like "if we get back together..."
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
