LSG,
Thank you for following my sitch. Have you exposed to OMW yet? I was to chicken to do it myself, it is very scary. I ended up not having to do it because someone else sent a letter instead. I do believe that the other spouse has a right to know, so do try to expose. Do you have any evidence, that would help when you do tell OMW.

I'll be thinking of you and your sitch and hoping for the best for you. Hugs

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10