H and I are still together. It's been 3 yrs since the D sitch.

Things are always up & down as in most M's, but I now have the tools and my eyes are always wide open to the beginnings of any down times & I know what I need to do. That usually happens when things start slipping back into the "old rut" which I obviously try & avoid, but w/ the craziness of life, it's hard sometimes to be constantly "aware" all the time. It is what it is though. I can't imagine what our life would be like & what our M would be like right now if we hadn't gone through what we did. I mean if he had never said he wanted a D & we had just continued living the way we were w/ the M/R we had. Neither one of us was happy really. Now I at least have the tools & know where to look for info, advice, etc. if I need it.

It's still hard for me to completely trust him. I don't know that those feelings will ever go away after being so completely deceived.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10