THA, you need to go back & re-read this thread from the beginning. Do you see where he started being interested in you again? I think you have become too pursuing or comfortable again & he has decided to run the other way again.
You need to get back to being happy w/ YOU and the kids and not worrying about whether he's going to call or not.
You got there at one point when all this started & you can do it again, but you need to realize where you need to do things differently and change them up.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I have reread the thread.. that's what is giving me that extra strength.
I wasn't DBing enough.. kept backsliding the second I saw an ounce of progress...I've also come to the point where I have just had it.. I still want my M, but I don't want THIS M..
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
this is what i told my W (after A busting of course)- "i will not go back to the way things were", "don't know if this is going to work but i am going to be happy either way, with you or without you"
get this in your mind - keep working on you!
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M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
worked out and then got something to eat. Hate getting those things.. i always end up eating the entire thing!
ETA: just a clarification.. I meant a footlong from SUBWAY! lol just clearing things up for those sex deprived dirty minded individuals who took this the wrong way. haha I crack myself up!
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M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
I also just found the other day that MWD has a book called "Getting Through to the Man You Love." Never knew about this one. I haven't read it yet, but can only have good stuff that would be helpful, you know?
You can go to books.google.com & look it up & read the first couple of chapters.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
The other book that I want to read (I admit I checked it out ages ago & never read it, oops) is "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Probably would be able to read a few chapters of that on google books too.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
RedHeadWife- I see you have been here for some time. What is your current sitch?
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
