She tells me she wants to talk to me, and wants to see me.
I am the one pursuing now. Very slowly, and very tentatively, but I am.
I know that is what EVERYONE says not to do, but I've been following more the "do something different" and "monitor results" more than anything else.
The problem for me here is that just going dark on her is "more of the same". Letting her contact me only is "more of the same"... Leaving setting up dates to her is "more of the same".
I TOTALLY understand where you guys are coming from and what you are saying, and I'm not trying to say you are wrong. I really am just trying out different things now and seeing how she reacts.
Her and I have a date in a few weeks, and I am leaving it at that. We chat some online when we are both at work, but thats it. No R talk. Just chit chatting. So far, this is going well.
My goal for the past month or so has been to create a safe environment where she feels comfortable talking to me again, and this seems to be happening.
And since you're in the mood to experiment and investigate, why not look up how "women test men", she may be testing the waters with you, seeing how easy it is to get you back, seeing if you really this new cool guy or if you're just acting. Women test Men. Women test Men OFTEN especially in your situation. You've been warned, expect it, look for it, smile when it happens, pretty soon you'll be able to spot it.
Don't make yourself more available now that she shows interest, pull back a little, be mysterious (another db technique), have plans to do stuff when she wants to see you, "maybe another time, call me tomorrow", etc.
You've been warned, if you post back a few weeks later and tell us she lost interest again, its your fault, no one else's.
