Andabelle thankfully D20 did not believe him. None of them did. I know b/c I specifically asked just for my own peace of mind. D14 was here when D20 told me what XH had said to her. Interestingly we just had a convo about her going on Sunday. She has already made up her mind that she will go as normal, tell him what she thinks of him as soon as she gets there and then come home again. I even tried to talk her out of it but she is adamant that this is what he deserves.
As for OW and S17 she was trying to vindicate herself but in actuality she just gushed more garbage and spew. She types her messages in the same way as she speaks. As she is from Czech Republic the kids take the mickey out of her by reading her texts in an eastern European accent. I know I shouldn’t laugh but I do.
BM It’s interesting that you mention whether what XH has said is slander. When I told my parents my mother was lost for words. Ten minutes later my father rang back demanding a telephone number for XH saying he wanted to give him a piece of his mind and to tell him he would take him to court. If you knew my father you would know that there is not a demanding bone in his body much less one that will sue in court. I managed to persuade him at the time that the best thing to do was ignore XH (whilst obviously dealing with the emotional fallout for D20) as a reaction is what he wanted. However, on reflection I do think that if nothing else I should write to my solicitor at least warning her what he is up to. It just irks me that this all costs money and he has made sure I’ve spent more than enough on his exploits in the last 4.5yrs. I think if he says it again I will definitely be suing for defamation of character.
Was2 Don’t you know that offering a woman who has only had one romantic encounter in nearly 5 years a glass of wine and a spanking is just a recipe for setting off all sorts of hormones and desires
As for your take on living with guilt I totally agree with you. My children all say that as far as they are concerned is that the best thing that can happen to their dad right now is for OW to leave him and let him know what it feels like to be in this position. I secretly wish it to but I try not to voice it if only b/c there is now another young life that would be destroyed and even though she is OW’s child she is an innocent and does not deserve that.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
