Originally Posted By: JT2007
I have to understand where my financial feet are just to get it out of the way...


This is a very good step in taking care of yourself.


Originally Posted By: JT2007
Looking at relationship with XH (still dont want to call him that) but we did sign the papers, it hasnt become final Yet.

So for now I will use it interchangeably until I am ready to let it go.


This is also good. Healthy.

Your list of things you want to work on is wonderful and really admirable.

You asked about detatching and I know it seems counter intuitive. Doesn’t seem like it will fix anything.

But it gives you the time to fix YOU which is really the only thing you can fix.

And it allows your H time to fix him, when he is so inclined.

I think you may be beginning to understand.

I hope you keep posting.


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox