Ok, so I know everyone rips on me about our car situation, but this is one of those situations where it muddies the waters. If I do say that, which does sound good, do I compromise and agree to let her take the car so that I'm not appearing to be controlling?
Why are you so worried about "not appearing to be controlling", based on the picture you've painted thus far, you have NO CONTROL whatsoever! Your wife is running the show, you don't seem to mind her "appearing to be controlling" do you?