"All rise"

[Generosity]

"I am not having an affair anymore because it isn't a secret." @Kat

I heard this one^, too!

My all time favorite was @ my birthday dinner, throughout which my H spent looking past me;

"You're just angry that I'm still boffing(sp?) that woman."

[faithisbelieving]

OMG...all of those above...Kerry...kat..hoosier...bnd...lol. Where do they get this???? Kerry...are you still waiting for Ed to box? LOL

OOOH...I almost forgot:

• You pushed me into the backseat of that car.
• Well, I may have been into it physically for the moment but not emotionally
• Well, I had my 'chicken cutlets'(those bra inserts) in and I couldn't feel anything

LOL
FIB

(yeah...and I wear my protective cup when I go out..LOL)

[faithisbelieving]

Crap...generosity..he said that?

Oooh...I just love these lines we got. LOLOLOLOL FIB

[kat727]

Oh this was another one, killed me at the time but you take it with a grain of salt...

We aren't married anymore just because there is some piece of paper filed away at the courthouse that says we are.

Yes my former H said those things to me and well, way more.

kat

[NoCodeBlues]

I got this from my now-Ex: At the time of the bomb, she said we had not been married in her mind for a very long time -- months at least, years even -- and implying she was under no obligation whatsoever to even let me know she had come to such a decision, let alone give me a say in that matter.

It was a constantly running theme with her following the bomb. She alone could unilaterally decide that the M had already ended -- the Law, God and society be d*mned -- and without even saying anything to me. Batchit crazy thinking.

There were lots of insane corollaries that spun off that one, which I won't go into right now (I could fill a book.)

My unvoiced retort to that was that one could unilaterally decide they are M'ed and D'ed any number of times without making it known openly. Thus xW could have entered into M and D over and over with any number of men all during the course of the 17+ years we were together, under such terms.

Again, she has continually proven herself to be batchit insane.

[bright_new_day]

"I got this from my now-Ex: At the time of the bomb, she said we had not been married in her mind for a very long time -- months at least, years even -- "

This train of thought seems prety common for the cheating WAS!

[25yearsmlc]

First, I think Batchitt is spelled with 2 t's...just sayin'...

and here is a fav line from an ex bf who broke up with me but had been bopping someone else for some time...and wanted to be intimate AFTER dropping a bomb...said
"IS THIS GOING TO PUT A DAMPER ON THE EVENING??" ("Why no, no damper. Nothing makes me hornier than getting dumped by you...shoot, it's a turn on for sure").

Anyone hear the "I've Been miserable for YEARS", "was NEVER happy" and or "I Only SEEMED happy to please everyone else" lines?

Love the secret misery line that revises an entire marital history. Also amnesia about things said and not said. Discussions about staying at home with birth of 3rd child and giving up partnership at major law firm is converted into "I do all the working...no one else does" and zero recall of HIS suggestion....oh well, they have to forget, or be responsible. Getting behind on finances b/c of their unilateral choices and having THEM complain that they are broke b/c.......of all the "costs of everything". (No, you stopped working, went exploring & plowed through our savings without telling me and now you are whining about how far behind WE are...(sigh))

For some odd reason, It does help to know there's a script out there with about 5 versions... and that we are not alone.
j-

[ClingingToHope]

Anyone hear the "I've Been miserable for YEARS", "was NEVER happy" and or "I Only SEEMED happy to please everyone else" lines?

I got the line "I had doubts beginning at six months" back in October.

I told her "that's called the honeymoon period. At six months I was wondering about us too because I'm a morning person and you aren't and your family was driving me crazy."

Still, we had D11 three years in. Had down moments before D7, but then was mostly good through our 10th year when something ... or a lot of things hit at once to cause her to end it in her head.

Really, I haven't felt loved since December 2006.

[Kalni]

Sadly, apart from what he told me, (I am not a family man, our marriage was a mistake, you are the meanest person I've met, I would never marry you again, you have ruined my life, you'll cause me cancer and kill me etc etc etc), I read what he had told her as well :if it wasnt for the kids, he would be long gone, our sex life sucked, etc etc

And yes, this is not an XH!!! I busted my @ss for this man... Oh dear!
K

[Gardener]

While my sitch has never to date shown any evidence of OM, my favorite was the following: months after she gotten her apartment and moved out, she was asking me something about some action I had take or some reaction I had had and I replied incredulously, matter-of-factly, "Hello?-y" by stating the obvious: "You left," yo which she indignantly replied, "I did not leave!!"