Originally Posted By: CityGirl
Here are a few things to think about.

You cannot control the way others behave. You cannot control your mom, dad, WAW or anybody else. What you CAN control is how you react.

Speculating about what your WAS is thinking or doing is a complete and total waste of energy.

You must learn to control your thoughts and actions in a healthy way. Self discipline and patience are two attributes that will help YOUR present and future and will make you a more effective DB.

The defensive posture you take must change. Only you can do that.

A small showing of gratitude goes a long way. You laugh and joke or become defensive but I don't see any "thank you's" to all the contributors to your very lengthy thread.

Until you take ALL the focus off your WAW nothing will change. Please do not issue another list of all the things you are doing. You might be doing things for you but your WAW still takes up all your head space.



my mother stated she's going out of town and can't take me to surgery. Now I have to find another way. It's too late to change it since the state is paying for it itll cost double. *sighs*

and like I said WAW is still talking to these two guys. It's not gonna stop


waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32
together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010

children SD (8) S (10) S (3)
need help from anyone with my sitch