MLC or not?

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I’m sorry I just can’t sit back and watch this anymore…

About this pool cover and sand. As a guy's point of view we like to be appreciated. If you ask H to do you and the kids a favor when you know he's listening he may tell you what you want. Here's how I would ask.

Here is how I would ask…

I would ASSUME that it has never been changed, go out, buy the sand necessary, and change it.

Then I would keep my own records, so in the future, I would know when it needed to be done again.

The people at the pool store can tell you how to do this. You can find the instructions on the internet.

NOT a big deal, NOT a crisis, and DEFINITELY NOT something that requires contacting him. I own a pool. I deal with it. Period.

I believe we need to let the WAS know we're alive.

They know we are alive. AND they are trying to get away from us. WHY would you force yourself on someone who SAYS they don’t want you around?

Yes they watch. Even when they don’t live with us, they watch…

To quote Star Wars "Stay away from the darkside." Going dark hurts us more than them.

UNTRUE. Going dark teaches us to take care of ourselves. It helps us to stay out of the line of fire. To stop the spinning and make a life of our own.

Part of the problem, in most of our situations, is that we are way too involved with our M’s. NOT taking care of ourselves.

NO taking care of yourself is NOT selfish. IT is NECESSARY.

Let your H spin and take care of YOU and STOP worrying about what he is doing and LIVE.

IF you have a chance at all of getting him back, that is what you have to do.

IF he doesn’t come back, well then your life is better and you know how to take care of what you need to take care of without him.

The choice is yours and yours alone.