So to start...Robx...I don't think we are on the same page. 1. she gets to the big O when she is in the mood and allows herself to enjoy the intimacy. it isn't that I do anything wrong. 2. it isn't the words, but the initial reaction... like (again not actual words, but body language) "I'm not into this, but I know I am supposed to be, so if I just lay here, he'll be done soon enough and I can get on with the day....oh dang, he wants foreplay...ugh" 3. Done talking about my bedroom skills.
I think someone(and don't remember who) hit the nail on the head. - I can't kick her out..we're both on the house mortgage. - I can't tell her what she can and cannot do, nor what I will or will not tolerate....she will do the opposite. - I have already pushed her bills to her.
She has filed papers which I got 2.5 weeks later. I will discuss legal options with my lawyer.
Counseling was a mess because she just wanted to turn it into her own complaint session. I am likely not going again until her attitude changes.
nobody says talking about this stuff is going to comfortable, no worries, just say stop and we're done.
The part about her hoping it will be done soon is very telling, the attraction between the 2 of you is dead, you have done things to kill the attraction and it's time to flip the switches that turn on attraction and this happens before you get into the bedroom.
