In what ways do you think using porn the same as having an affair (or similar) to anyone?
While I am trying to stop forever (plus it is a sin for which I've always felt guilty), my W sees them as synonomus. She says that when she thinks of me looking at other women, she feels like I am doing it with them and then doesn't want to see me at all. I get the hurt part.
Sitch Update... Right now, she is seriously asking for a separation (again, 8x in 3 months) until I am totally off it.
My response: She said "you're the man you have to go" at 8:50 pm as I was unloading the dishwasher (because I wanted to go to our room to exercise with the door locked for 15 min - yes, exercise only; this was also after supper where I complemented her, showed affection, was kind to kids - a kind of perfect evening). So, I did the hardest thing for me and left. I exercised at work, slept in my van until 3am. After that, I slept on the couch at my house.
In the morning, she apologized, said she couldn't control her anger, and that she wasn't going to sleep in our room anymore. I told her that if she wants a separation, it wouldn't be like last time. It would be complete. I would not be with the kids or her at all, including dinner. She would need to take care of bills, buying food, whatever.
I then added I didn't want any separation. I also made it clear that while I feel bad that she is having a rough time, I was too and I will succeed in time.
