1. You suspect he may be cheating again 2. There are divided opinions on how to approach infidelity as a whole 3. We don't have confirmation if an infidelity is taking place or not
The one camp here argues that infidelity should be handled as an addiction, using exposure, intervention, and protection for yourself and your family until the infidelity is over and the WS agrees to a transparency plan you are both satisfied with.
The alternate camp reccomends working hard on your end to make yourself a more attractive option, but NOT addressing the infidelity at all... merely acting as if it isn't a problem in hopes the spouse will reuturn home.
Note that the former camp's approach does still reccomend the LBS work on themselves and get a life of some sort, to make the return home more inviting.
This is the issue. You have to find out if he IS cheating, and if so, you need to decide the consequences/responses you will take from those circumstances. Once we know what's going on, we can make some decisions.
He can be sweet as pie and cheat at the same time, men are very good at that. Don't rely on single sample behaviour analysis, you are after PATTERNED BEHAVIOUR here over the long haul. Based on his behaviour I would say they are at least talking still.
Your H acts way to entitled to think he's being sincere with you, and there is NO OFFER of a transparency plan to rebuild trust on your end.. he's acting as if the affair has done no damage he has any responsability to repair at all.
This usually means they are still in teh fog or still cheating outright.
