My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[awest1217]

I say going dark does not mean ignoring. I think you need to start doing things so if H does text or calls, you might be busy and later when you call him back or respond to a text, you can say you were busy with whatever you are doing. I have always lived by the Golden Rule in this. I might be wrong and my M is not improving at all, but I feel better about myself knowing that I never ignored H. I always answer or respond unless I really am busy.

The going dark is not initiating anything and also GALing so once in a while you legitimately are busy.