It sounds like you are taking your own great advice and things are looking up at the moment. Take it slow and easy. Don't get too excited or too down. Even keeled.
We know what we should do, it's just scary to do it because it seems like the wrong thing to do even though it hasn't been working. We finally realize this on our own. I wish it wouldn't have taken me so long. I'm getting there. It's still scary but it is the right thing to do. Deatchment is a bit#h! I guess it's the only thing that really works!