Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

You can be a nice guy without offering her money. Right now, in her warped brain, she isn't thinking "Boy, isn't SR great. That's so nice." She's thinking either you're a chump or that you don't think she can make it on her own.

CTH, thanks for the perspective and sharing your experience. Have you gone dark mostly since? Has it made any difference in her stance at all?

I'm wondering if I should continue to stay dark or if I should work on the LLs? I'm really not sure. I know we have to go through the D but I don't know if she's really angry at me inside or at peace or feeling guilty? If it's the former I'd like to somehow get her to feel the latter so perhaps she doesn't make things worse than they are - like hooking up with someone...sigh!

ST, thanks. I know it's just hard to hear DD talk about things like that. She loves to draw and color and she always draws the three of us and our two cats. Even last night she did. Last night talking to her mom she told her she wanted daddy to go with them to grandma's (back east). STBXW said 'daddy can't go sweety, but you can call him'.

I dropped DD off at school, gave her lots of hugs and kisses. I won't see her till Mon