Trust, Cat. Do you mean in ourselves or our MLCer?
TF,
Trust. Period. Be really honest with yourself. Do you trust your own judgement right now? In regards to other people? At least as far as your H is concerned?
You say you don’t believe him. Is that because he has lied so much, or because you are scared that if you do put any trust in him, you will be proven wrong, thus questioning your own judgement?
Yes we need to relearn how to trust them, but they have to earn that trust. Slowly. And they have to want to earn that trust.
But we also have to learn how to trust in ourselves as well. That it is ok to put your faith in people and know that if they let you down, it doesn’t mean that you were wrong.
It is how the walls we build get broken down and how we keep them from reforming in all of our relationships.
It is a necessary step in our healing. Otherwise, we remain as stuck as they are.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
