If you try, yes you are risking. Yes, he may say no. He may also not.
I wouldn't suggest this TTA, except for the fact that you said that you were certain he was in a depression or something of sorts.
I say that because when I want to run away, I know that being direct helps me. It helps because I have to choose between two options, it takes a lot of stress away. It is time to be direct, I think.
IF you agree, rememebering this is your life and your husbands, not mine, use choices that are "a or b".
For example, "would you like to see a MC now, or wait and see if things change after this agreement that I don't really agree with" tells information, gives your preference, and asks him to choose the course he's on or detour.
Remember, not trying is the only thing you can regret, but the way I suggested isn't the only way to try.
