Thanks for the advice. Yes Mach I do get it now. Fixer, we have been mostly texting as far as when we do communicate, which I hate! But there is something that I do need to know, not right now but in a month. It's something about the pool. It's like we are both afraid to talk on the phone for some reason, it is awkward....maybe that's it.
I know it hasn't been that long since the pizza thing but Celestial is right and so is everyone else. I have to wait for him to come to me.
About the pool question though.....do I call or text him and how do I go about it? Do I wait for him to contact me about something? Do I call him if he doesn't call or text me before I need to know the answer? All I need to know is if he had changed the sand in the filter since we had the pool. I had someone help me with the pool last year and they told me that the sand needed to be changed around every 5yrs. I honestly don't know if H ever changed it and the person that helped me said that if it hasn't been changed I need to do it this year before I open it.
Fixer, just wanted to let you know that I texted H about someone passing away around a month ago and he didn't even respond. So I don't think reminding him of a birthday or anything would help.
Also, Fixer and Celestial I really don't think H would contact me first. It seems like he waits for me to contact him for some reason. Like in March I had asked him if he could tell me how to get the water off of pool cover etc. and he said he would do it for me and would let me know when. Well, around a week or two later he contacted me and asked if I had got it done or not. I said no, and we ended up texting back and forth joking and that's how we ended up getting together but at his place because he didn't want to come down since my girlfriend was there. Well, that's when we had the conversation regarding the dating thing and you all know what happened after that. Needless to say, thank God I found someone to get the water off of the cover because he never called or texted me seeing if I had got it done or not.
I know I need to detach and I do better on some days than others. Celestial, you said you liked when your H contacted you while you were going through your MLC. I have texted H on his birthdays, and holidays but since I'm trying to detach I didn't contact him on Easter.
I think what part of my problem is that our anniversary is coming up and this year it's on Mother's day also! Got through last year but was rough but really dread this year. See H's real mother and step-father's anniversary is the same day. H and that side of his family all picked the date and pushed the idea of getting married in the first place. I was the one that was really hesitant on getting married due to being divorced because ex H was very physically and emotionally abusive.
Do anniversaries bother any of you? Or are you detached enough not to think of them?
