You need to play a game of Twister now. Keep one foot in reality, one hand on hope, the other foot on change and the other hand on your heart.
Should I tell you now that I always lost at Twister? I do like this analogy though b/c it's a fine balance.
Another analogy I've been working with is that it's like we're on a boat. I can keep revving the engine but we're not going anywhere if the anchor is still down. So instead of me exerting so much energy on something stuck (my H), I'm going to get off the boat, go for a swim and then maybe layout on the beach instead. I don't need to be stuck on a boat that is going nowhere.
FIB - Thanks for the insight. I am hoping I'm not in denial at this point. I am trying my best to accept things as they are and detach. It is easier said than done. Is there something that is making you still think I am? Maybe working with the DB coach...which I do still want to do?
Me 30, H34, M7years Bomb dropped 5/09, S8/09, Living together 2/10 (due to external forces)
I do like this analogy though b/c it's a fine balance. 
