ohh, when my h sends his text about "I don't know what to do" and he is talking about "us"....he told me earlier last week that it wasn't just his decision. Really? WTF?
Sure seems like it's just his decision.
I agree w/above poster: you'll figure it out.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
So what would happen if I "bugged" her again and she backed off my h and he panicked some and I wasn't as available?
First -- you don't know why she backed off the first time. So you really have no idea what will happen this time.
Second -- what kind of relationship do you want? Do you want to actually have a healthy marriage, or do you just want your H back?
If it's the latter, then go ahead with what you're doing. If it's the former, then stop wasting your time worrying about him and the OW and work on yourself.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Trent I do see your point.... And I know that she backed off last time because my h told me that my plan worked. Hahaha very immature of both of us I know. Still funny.
Doesn't the ow think it is funny that my h keeps telling her that he wants to be in a r with her, yet he is still m and if doesn't take over 6 months to get a d. Hmmm, he is an idiot.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
My H told OW that he was leaving me and the kids and getting a D. (mind you, she was overseas)... meanwhile he was telling me one day that he wanted a D and the next, he wanted to work on things.
she grew VERY impatient and started arguments with him over it. I knew this because I had intel on him but I just sat back and let it all unfold and crumble.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
I am pretty sure this 24 year old girl my h is infactuated with isn't really interested in being much more than his friend. I've seen emails and texts between them. It is very high school. Yet my h keeps trying and trying multiple times to have a r with her. It is really pathetic and so sad. I think she is more into parties and friends at this point in her life! Maybe I'm wrong...
The ow did become irritated and annoyed when I tried to call her. I thought it was so funny. Her getting mad was so upsetting to my h and he was furious with me. Mind you that he thinks it is ok to pursue another woman because he has told me he wants a d and he is staying at his moms house. Really? He is dillusional.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
In my case, the girl's 22.. she was def partying and doing her thing (along with other guys as well). I don't think she truly knew what she was getting herself into.. when they were having their A, it was just them two.. I had nothing to do with it. Now with it all out in the open, not only am I brought into the mix, but also our 3 kids. Not so much fun now, is it? lol
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
I don't think his mom knows of the a. My mil is widowed recently and I think she just wants what is best for her son. Plus I think she likes the company snd she can get him to do stuff around the house. I call her house an all inclusive resort . I guarantee she Is doing his laundry and cooking for him too.
I think If she knew of the a she wouldn't be happy with him at all and would be upset. She loves me!
The ow is definately in the party/friend stage of her life. My h even admitted that back in nov to some friend on facebook. But he apparently decided she is worth still chasing. He has left and come home multiple times. Each time because I either was blocking her number or trying to call her (I know childish).
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
