Maybe I didn't blow it?

[soleil]

I wanted her to think I was done and walking away.

I hopnestly think this can hurt and not help sometimes.

But now, I need to let her know that I do not want the divorce and am still working on the things that ruined us?

You need to let her know you don't want the D. Plain & simple. That way she knows what you DON'T want.

Do you think maybe aside from telling her i don't really want the divorce, I should just keep quiet and lets my actions speak for me?

I'm thinking I don't really need to tell her I'm making changes in myself to make our relationship better, but she will be able to sense it when we hang out.

Does that make sense?

It makes perfect sense. Actions AND words. That's why you need to communicate verbally/ask her what thing you can do on your end to improve things, state that you are WILLING to change things.