No, there is no female I spend much time. I do work with a lot a women but I do not call or hang out with them outside work. The truth is I have neglected my W. And to an extent she has neglected me. The weekend is just not enough time to cram everything we need together and separately. We have both grown so independent and see each other as independent that we have not been taking care of each other.
To Soleil,
The communication breakdown has been gradual over about four years. Her working on the road, me working evenings have decreased phone calls in the week to being a rare occurance. On the weekends, fatique, chores, and mainly lack of planning and communication have taken most of the fun of being together lately.
By the time I changed jobs, and things settled down emotionally for me, she was already pretty withdrawn from thinking the R could be fixed. Subtle acts of love by me went largely unnoticed.
