I guess my question is, since she's stopped the personal attacks, how do I move forward? Do I just keep on doing my thing? Should I change any part of my approach? I guess I just feel like we're kind of at a weird place right now.
You are, and you will be, for the next several weeks to even as much as a few months. This is the worst part (altho, for men, I find that they often have an easier time with THIS part than with the "limbo" parts, since we are natural fighters/fixers/problem-solvers). Yes, you continue to do your own thing, remain upbeat and courteous (but not supplicating), and you work on:
- protecting yourself legally - protecting yourself financially, including making moves to segregate finances wherever possible and NOT paying in any way to enable her affair - GALing and "being the better option"
Don't back down, but don't be an ass. Be business-like. "Joe Friday" is what me and my mentor called it, but pick a character that works for you. "Just the facts, ma'am."