Just to let you know..... I'm still alive.

[Andabelle]

I wonder what she said to him!

[job]

Continue to sit quietly and wait...things are beginning to unfold. If she can manage to visit w/you that would be great. She needs to make sure she deletes anything on the computer that would indicate that she's contacted you.

Please take care.

[Between Tears]

Hi Andabelle,

I have no idea as to what she said to him, she gave me another clue tonight, and that was "honesty is not always the best policy with Dad."

I also know even though Spring break is over, she is still grounded and her boyfriend is not to be around her. This was given to me by the boyfriend, who had walked her out of the school to her truck, after a full day of school and 4 hours of her tutoring other students. Dick drove up on his Harley, just as those two were about to say good night. The boyfriend went to speak to Dick, and Dick yelled out to him, "Don't you dare take another step towards me, now go, and get the hell away from here."

This was sent to me from the boyfriend, begging me to help him get back on Dick's good side....

My response was a long one, full of apologies, and trying to let him know that it has nothing to do with him, but there was no way to get back on Dick's good side.

I'm sure I'll have more information coming in soon.

[Between Tears]

Snodderly,

Sit back I will, I'm receiving notes from both D and her boyfriend now, so the information will come in time. D mentioned she may try to become emancipated through signing on with the Navy. This scares me, that she feels joining the Navy is a way out.

I'm doing my best to be a source of comfort, lending an open ear and soft heart. I just hope it's enough.

[Between Tears]

Well, I have found that D was grounded for the whole Spring Break and this week, along with having her phone taken away, because she just spoke what was on her mind. That's all.

According the the boyfriend, he and D were getting along fine, and suddenly she broke up with him out of the blue, something she did with her other boyfriend. He believes Dick is the reason she broke up with him, and the reason he has taken away the phone too, so they can't talk. They have been sneaking notes to each other, and communicating through facebook also. So, I won't be surprised if she gets cut off from the computer also.

Isolation, one of his favorite tools..... I know it all too well. If he can't convince D to break up with him, he'll start bad mouthing her to him, saying she said "something" that would be hurtful about the boyfriend, so the boyfriend begins to doubt her and or the relationship. I've had too many aquaintences, friends, and even some family members fall for his crap... I know it all to well. Dick knows exactly what to say to cut the ties... he's a master manipulator. My heart breaks for them both.

[job]

I'm sorry to hear this news. Sounds like the "n" personality is at work again, i.e., isolation, etc.

How are you doing? How is your son doing?

[kml]

Your daughter does not need any help to file for emancipation, nor does she need to join the Navy to become emancipated. She just needs to show2 that she could support herself - so I recommend she get herself a good-paying part-time job if she can. I'm sure there must be all kinds of info online about this?

[Between Tears]

Snodderly,

I'm doing okay... tired, but okay.. As long as I hear from one of the kids, daily, I'm doing okay. It seems the boyfriend is going to talk to a couselor today about what is going on with D, and he has a spare phone which he's going to give D. This news has me feeling better. The BF says that Jane is on D's side also... but I don't trust Jane to do the right thing, or even offer the truth to anyone who can help. I think Jane realizes that if D leaves, she'll be the one under Dick's wrath, therefore, may get in the way of D's freedom.

As for S... well, he realizes Dick is just buying is love, and unfortunately, taking advantage of what Dick offers him. He's looking into the future, making plans, talking college, a full time job for the summer and a new place to live. I think he's doing just fine for now.

[Between Tears]

Hi Ellie,

D has a part time job now working for the resort, that she is a lifeguard for during the summer. She's been working at the Marina all winter, along with tutoring other students and going to school. She works every Saturday and Sunday, and hasn't had a day off since she was here for Christmas. Shoot, she's only home long enough to sleep and shower, but that's what she did intentionally to avoid being there as much as possible.

As for becoming emancipated, I'm not sure I'm all for it, but do understand she is only trying to get out of Dick's control and out of the court system too. I will let her know there are groups or people who can and will help her become emancipated.

Thanks for all your help! I'm still looking for Doctor who is experienced with the LDN, I'm going to call the compounding Pharmacy today just to see if they know of a Doctor who prescribes LDN.

[Between Tears]

Okay,

This is what I have found out. Dick nixed the emancipation, because he found that the Judge will more than likely just send D back to me...

Next, Dick is becoming worse with D. Now, on top of going to school, tutoring 4 hours a day, and working every weekend, Dick and Jane have assigned D with all the housework. Dick has told D her boyfriend is out of her life, has told the boy to stay away too, and that she is grounded until she turns 18. Oh, still pressuring D to go into the Navy.

The two of them have been spying on D, checking her facebook and myspace to make sure she isn't talking to the boyfriend and of course, myself. She still doesn't have her phone back....

My question is: Because I've sat back quietly, and Dick has absolutely no legal reason to come after me.... Do you think this is the reason Dick is being so hard on D? I've begun to think he's doing all of this to get a reaction from me, and he's not getting it.

Just think, the street bike as soon as she gets there, knowing how'd I feel. Cutting off all communications, pressuring to go into the Navy.... he's trying to push buttons, isn't he?

I'm still sitting back quietly.... although, I'd like to strangle the b@st@rd!