I think he's with OW b/c he thinks she's his soul mate and I'm the reason for everything wrong in his life. His life would just be perfect if I moved out and she moved in... never mind that she's not prepared to be a full time mom to these kids, lives an hour away, and we have a mini-farm to take care of over here. (chickens, turkeys, ducks)
I don't know what the consequences can be. What should they be? I'll think hard about it today. I can't stop it from happening, right now he's so deep into the fog, he truly thinks being away from me is the best thing he can do, but he hasn't come up with any exit plans that I know of. And he truly thinks that she is his soul mate and everything will be great with her... never mind that he doesn't really know her, she's M, she's 43 and never had kids (I think he thinks that in 2 years, the kids will just move out and she'll move in? Maybe he's forgetting that DSS20 still lives with us) - I just don't see any "R" he has with her lasting, but in his mind, it will and in his mind, our M is over. He's justifying what he's doing with her b/c in his mind, our M is over and has been for years. He's re-written the entire thing to being miserable now. It was just a few months, then a few years, now it's our entire M that has been miserable... of course, we were that couple that everyone everywhere knew b/c we looked so happy together, were always together and smiling, laughing, having a good time with each other... but now that was all an act. He should get an academy award, me thinks.
