Wow, IDU. That's very interesting- at some point, all of our kids will know who's done what, who has behaved badly and who has behaved with dignity and integrity throughout all of this. I try to keep myself in the 2nd category and remind myself that I don't need to say anything negative about H, even though I might feel like it in the future just out of my own hurt- none of us do (and we all know it's bad for the kids anyway)- IF they behave badly, they will reveal themselves and their character to the kids.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
This is what I tell my kids. When they talk badly about their dad I say, "I'm sorry your dad is behaving this way." I try not to make negative comments..it's hard!
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I had another bad morning but the day got better. I talked to some people (you know who you are) thank you for that!
Oh I must tell you. H didnt bother to text me that he landed or anything but he texts me at 5:30 (he's supposed to be working hard at this hour) that I need to pay the business credit card asap...it was late. He probably tried to use it and it got declined. I looked at the text and said IGNORE just like he does me. Maybe I'll pay it tomorrow maybe I won't. IF I get around to it.
I just got home and I'm so tired I think I might just sleep through the night. I was exhausted this morning and my eyes were burning but I got out and enjoyed the day and the evening.
Luv Luvs you guys...
night
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Hi luv, I have had a horrible week too. It wil get better and we will get stronger. something stuck out to me in your posts....you are not his family but he expects you to pick up his laundry and pay his credit card. Don't you love it? When you need, you are not family, when he needs, you are.
M:38 H:42 T:20 M:19 D:18 S:17 MLC: Sometime in 2007 OW Bomb 1: 12/28/07 OW Online relationship 2: Spring 2009 Told him I wanted D: May 10, 2009 D final: 07/09/11
