I have worked with five couples intensively in the last two weeks where long-term infidelity was part of their situations. One of the most important things to remember when healing from betrayal is that patience is absolutely a necessity. Recovery takes time and, even in the age of the lightening speed electronics, you can't fast-forward through the process. It takes good old-fashioned time.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement